Somatic Work for Couples

Supporting safety, presence, and repair in relationship

Regulation is relational.

We don’t dysregulate alone

and we don’t repair alone either.

Relationships are nervous-system experiences. When bodies feel unsafe, communication can break down, even when there is love, insight, and a genuine intention to connect. In many relationships, nervous system regulation is influenced by two opposing attachment-based responses: the pull toward closeness driven by fear of abandonment, and the pull toward distance driven by feeling overwhelmed or invaded.

Over time, this push–pull dynamic can become exhausting and often leads to repeated relationship conflict as both partners struggle to meet their needs for safety. These patterns are deeply rooted in attachment history and nervous system conditioning; they exist in the body before they reach conscious awareness. Somatic work for couples helps partners understand and work with these patterns through the body, supporting regulation, co-regulation, and relational repair. By focusing on safety, boundaries, and conditions that support secure attachment, couples can create the space to reconnect and deepen their relationship over time.

Who This Work Is For?

Somatic couples work is for partners who care deeply about their relationship and want to build emotional safety, presence, and connection, even when things feel challenging or stuck. Many couples come to this work feeling caught in recurring patterns of conflict, emotional distance, or escalation in conversations.

This work is supportive for couples who are interested in exploring nervous system regulation, co-regulation, and attachment dynamics together. It is especially helpful for partners willing to slow down, practice body-based exercises, and approach their relationship with curiosity, care, and mutual responsibility.

Couples do not need to be in crisis to benefit; many engage in this work to deepen trust, strengthen communication, and prevent patterns from becoming entrenched.

Because somatic couples work is grounded in safety, consent, and nervous system regulation, it may not be appropriate in situations where these conditions cannot be met. This includes relationships experiencing active physical, emotional, or sexual abuse, ongoing betrayal without additional therapeutic support, or high-conflict crises that require immediate clinical intervention.

Somatic work for couples relies on a shared willingness to take responsibility for one’s own nervous system responses and relational impact. When this shared capacity is not present, other forms of support may be more appropriate before engaging in somatic practices together. Prioritizing safety, consent, and nervous system integrity ensures the work remains effective and protective for both partners.

When This Work May Not Be the Right Fit

Safety, Consent & Boundaries

Safety, consent, and respect for each partner’s nervous system are central to somatic couples work. Every session is held within clear boundaries, creating a supportive space where partners can explore connection, regulation, and presence at a pace that feels safe. All practices are consent-based, and no one is ever required to share or disclose beyond their comfort. Partners have full choice in how they engage, with structured guidance to support co-regulation and attunement. Either partner may pause, step out, or adjust a practice at any time, ensuring that the work respects each nervous system. By centering safety, choice, and boundaries, couples can explore connection, presence, and regulation without feeling overwhelmed or exposed.

How Somatic Work Supports Couples

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Somatic work for couples strengthens nervous system regulation within relationships, helping partners cultivate co-regulation, emotional attunement, and relational safety. Couples learn to stay present during moments of tension or conflict, reduce reactive patterns, and respond from regulation rather than instinctive stress responses.

This work also supports repair after ruptures and builds long-term capacity for trust, secure attachment, and connection. Rather than focusing on “fixing” communication, somatic couples work emphasizes creating the conditions that make healthy communication and attunement possible. Through guided, body-based practices, partners develop the skills to regulate their nervous systems together, manage relational stress, and cultivate deeper presence, understanding, and connection.

What Sessions Are Like & Therapy Context

Sessions are carefully structured and facilitated, emphasizing experiential learning over debate or discussion alone. Couples are guided through somatic practices designed to cultivate nervous system regulation, co-regulation, and presence. Each session prioritizes pacing, choice, and integration so partners can practice connection safely and embodiedly.

Somatic couples work is not couples therapy, but many couples engage in it alongside therapy to embody tools discussed in sessions, practice co-regulation between meetings, increase their capacity to stay present during conflict, and support the integration of relational insights. When appropriate, couples are encouraged to maintain therapeutic support, creating a complementary approach that deepens relational presence, safety, and attunement.

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Ways To Work Together

Couples are invited to apply or inquire to explore fit,

ensuring a supportive and safe container for relational growth.

Online couples programs

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Small group sessions focused on co-regulation and somatic presence

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Date-Night Workshops

Immersive sessions for deeper nervous system work and connection

For clients seeking guided, embodied practice

Invitation-only in-person journeys

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Our Popular DateNight Workshops

Designed for couples who want to build safety, presence, and trust, the workshop supports co-regulation and relational awareness without pressure or performance.

This workshop invites couples to a tailored experience that deepens their connection, starting with self-discovery and growing into a richer understanding of each other.

This workshop is perfect for couples looking to rekindle their connection, and deepen intimacy offering a supportive space for mutual growth and understanding.

This workshop is a dynamic and action-oriented combining psychosomatic techniques with interactive exercises to help couples navigate and set healthy boundaries.

In-Person Journeys

These in-person journeys are time-bound, small-group somatic containers designed for couples who want to deepen relational safety, presence, and embodied connection.

In-person journeys are offered occasionally and intentionally.

Details are shared through an interest list and participation is by application or invitation, to support fit and safety for everyone involved.

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The couples workshop was truly transformative, helping us connect on a deeper level. Highly recommend!

Sarah M.

Attending the workshop was a game-changer for our relationship. We learned so much about ourselves.

Michael B.